Mempersiapkan Pernikahan Kristen yang Harmonis melalui Pengembangan Panduan Konseling Pranikah

Oloria Malau, May Rauli Simamora, Frisca Sri Wulan Hulu, Joyis Sagala, Widya Ayu Lase

Abstract


A harmonious marriage is the hope of almost all brides-to-be. This study aimed to develop a guide to premarital counseling to prepare for a harmonious Christian marriage. This research belongs to Research & Development (R&D), which produces products through specific procedures or steps. The development model is ADDI (Analysis, Design, Development, Implementation, and Evaluation). 15 (fifteen) pastors and prospective pastors were involved in this study. The results of material experts' conformity test of premarital counseling guidelines obtained an average of 99.5 with the appropriate criteria. Premarital Counseling is included in church Diakonia activities for couples who want to get married at GKPI in Tapanuli. Premarital Counseling needs to be done as education for couples who want to get married to get a harmonious Christian family with God's Love. For premarital Counseling to be well understood by couples, a premarital counseling guidebook is needed with guidelines for good and not rushed counseling duration and time, as well as topics in premarital counseling books. It would be better if it integrated the wisdom of psychology and theology.

 

 

Abstrak

Pernikahan yang harmonis merupakan harapan hampir semua calon pengantin. Tujuan penelitian ini adalah untuk mengembangkan panduan konseling pranikah dalam rangka mempersiapkan pernikahan Kristen yang harmonis. Penelitian ini termasuk ke dalam Research and Development (R&D) yang menghasilkan produk melalui prosedur atau langkah-langkah tertentu. Model pengembangan yang digunakan adalah ADDI (Analysis, Design, Development, Implementation dan Evaluation). Sebanyak 15 (lima belas) orang pendeta dan calon pendeta terlibat dalam penelitian ini. Hasil dari uji kesesuaian panduan konseling pranikah oleh ahli materi diperoleh rata-rata 99,5 dengan kriteria sesuai. Konseling Pranikah termasuk ke dalam kegiatan diakonia gereja bagi pasangan yang hendak menikah, tidak terkecuali di GKPI di Tapanuli Konseling Pranikah sangat perlu dilakukan sebagai edukasi kepada pasangan yang hendak menikah untuk memperoleh keluarga Kristen yang harmonis yang sesuai dengan Cinta Kasih Allah. Agar konseling pranikah dapat dipahami dengan baik oleh pasangan sangat dibutuhkan buku panduan konseling pranikah dengan pedoman durasi dan waktu konseling yang cukup dan tidak terburu-buru serta topik-topik buku konseling pranikah akan lebih baik jika mengintegrasikan kearifan psikologi dan teologi.

 


Keywords


premarital counseling guide; marriage; harmonious; development; panduan konseling pranikah; pernikahan; harmonis; pengembangan

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